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Hobosexual relationships are everywhere, and you’ll have your hands full for those who enter one.
Discover the hobosexual relationship dynamics and why it pays to be cautious before being swept off your feet.
Protect your finances and add beneficiaries before handing out keys or signing bills.
Love is indeed blind, and it can be the beginning of a complex financial lesson to learn for many people.
Finance And Relationships Are A Big Deal, Especially When Moving In Together
Falling in love with the couch-surfing Joe or Jane manipulators can tear you emotionally and financially.
Before handing keys to your residence, add beneficiaries to investments and co-sign for anything not in your name.
Beware of the hobosexual relationship personality type who preys on your heart and wallet.
Falling head over heels at the beginning of a dating whirlwind is exciting, and everything seems to fall into place.
Now might be an intelligent time to step back and evaluate what’s happening if the relationship moves too fast.
I know you probably haven’t heard of the hobosexual relationship before.
Still, today, I want to dig deeper into the meaning of being taken advantage of for personal gain.
The term “hobosexual” was brought to life by writer Nakita Nicci at Rolling Out, who describes a hobosexual relationship as a person who doesn’t have a genuine interest in you but uses you for a place to stay.
This world is full of scammers, and I’ve written many blog posts about money scams, but this is a different scam where the person may or may not get money.
A hobosexual craves a security blanket and someone to care for them without putting emotion or money into the relationship. It’s scary to think about, but it happens all the time.
Let’s look into the hobosexual relationship more, so perhaps you can learn about it and watch for targets coming your way.
Dodge them at ALL costs!
Meaning of a Hobosexual Relationship
What is a hobosexual relationship?
There’s a Seattle-based alternative rock band named the Hobosexual, but this isn’t about your relationship with music. It’s about your relationship in general.
According to the Urban Dictionary, A hobosexual relationship is based on need rather than love.
There are healthy relationships based on love, and, in most cases, love takes time to develop.
Typically, you don’t move in with someone a week, two weeks, or months into a relationship.
Red flags should be obvious that something is incorrect or the relationship is moving too fast.
Often, this is why I’ve said it’s important when dating someone to ask lots of questions, and if they think you are coming off too strong, move on.
It’s your life; you can choose how you live it and who you invite into your circle or private space.
Learning About A Hobosexual Person
A CBB reader sent me something they had read on Facebook, which triggered this post because I had never heard of being in a hobosexual relationship.
They sent me a photo shared on the thread about this type of behaviour described as that of a hobosexual.
Like you, I had to Google it and read more into it because it reeked of someone being taken advantage of financially, emotionally, and perhaps physically.
A guy I’m into came over the other day.
He sat in my living room, looked around, said he could get used to this, and listed many things he liked about my place.
Then, when he was getting a beer, he checked out all of my cupboards, fridge, and freezer.
He said he likes to see how I live as he opened and looked into every last one. Dishwasher too!
This was his first time over. We aren’t dating, but hanging out and into each other.
Is this too much? Maybe a bit weird?- Source– Facebook Group
I wanted to know more and share with all of you who may be single, dating, or actively seeking someone via dating apps.
I’ve had my fair share of dating apps, but trust me, if someone wants to lie, they will do it online and in person, no matter where you meet them.
A hobosexual can be male or female and target anyone who fits the perfect life or life they want.
Hobosexual Relationship Example
Below is an example of what a typical hobosexual relationship is based around.
- Person A has no place to live, or where they live is not ideal based on their needs or society.
- Person B has a nice, functional place that Person A could see themselves living in.
- Neither Person A nor Person B is in a relationship.
- Person A pursues a relationship with Person B not based on love but on the need for somewhere to live for free or near free.
ho·bo
(hō′bō)
n. pl. ho·boes or ho·bos
1. One who wanders from place to place without a permanent home or a means of livelihood.
2. A migrant worker.
3. also hobo bag A large, crescent-shaped handbag with a single shoulder strap and usually a zippered top.
intr.v. ho·boed, ho·bo·ing, ho·boes
To live or wander like a vagrant a person without a settled home or regular work who wanders from place to place and lives by begging.
6 Hobosexual Signs To Look Out For
- They have nowhere to live, no address, and avoid conversations about living arrangements.
- Lies and more prominent white lies are consistently stacking up.
- They are manipulative and contradicting and, in some cases, may seem too good to be true. They check all the material relationship boxes or are perfect with apparent flaws.
- They will sympathize with you about past relationships gone wrong and blame others—no single periods for years but multiple connections.
- They go rifling through stuff around your house or car and remarks about moving in.
- They make you pay for things and have excuses for money issues, want money, or a loan.
Finally, run as you’ve never run if you feel the relationship is moving WAY TOO FAST.
How To Get Out Of A Hobosexual Relationship
Ideally, please don’t get into a hobosexual relationship with a loser who takes advantage of you. Boot their a$$ out.
On the other hand, it may not be as easy as you think, especially if you’ve moved a partner into a space that you rent or own based on common law, as they fall under provincial jurisdiction.
No Common Law Status Then Kick Them Out
If there is no common law and you own or are the sole name on the lease of a rental agreement, pack up their stuff and kick them out!
Common-law relationships typically refer to couples that live together in an arrangement akin to marriage but without an actual ceremony or legal documents.
Ontario Justice Harvey Brownstone said there is no registration in his home province.
As he points out, “common law” in Ontario is more of a vernacular term. – CBC
Before moving in with someone, there are many things to consider, especially from a financial standpoint.
So, before you hand over those keys, do your homework and caution yourself about the Hobosexual who couch surfs for free.
Discussion: Have you been involved in or know someone who enters a hobosexual lifestyle?
Please share your comments below.
Mr. CBB
